Some people take 3 minutes to brush their teeth, some take 3 minutes to cook instant noodles, and some take 3 minutes to… well, let’s not beat around the bush — I am the fastest worker in the world…
Jokes aside, 3 minutes is actually pretty good. Here’s why:
Generally speaking, if the time from entering the “passage” to ejaculation is longer than 1 minute, it is not considered premature ejaculation.
Theoretically, the duration of a single sexual encounter cannot be used as the sole criterion for judging premature ejaculation. Instead, the average duration of most sexual activities over the past 6 months should be evaluated.
Adult films often depict sex lasting 30 minutes or more, which can create significant pressure for men in real life.
However, in reality, most men’s actual sexual intercourse lasts between 3 to 8 minutes.
Sometimes, if the performance isn’t great and it ends in 2-3 minutes, it still doesn’t necessarily mean premature ejaculation.
Strictly speaking, as long as the sexual activity lasts more than 1 minute, he’s doing great!
How Long Should Sex Last to not be Considered Premature Ejaculation?
In daily life, many people place a lot of importance on the duration of intercourse. If they’re not satisfied, they immediately assume it’s premature ejaculation.
However, if people understood the mechanism of “ejaculation,” they would realize that time is not the core factor—control is the key indicator.
The mechanism of ejaculation involves nerves controlling muscle contractions, which trigger glandular secretions and the contraction of the vas deferens to expel semen.
Therefore, from the perspective of the ejaculation process, control is crucial. When the neural “valve” is opened and the ejaculation threshold is reached, ejaculation occurs.
Let’s look at the International Society for Sexual Medicine’s definition of premature ejaculation:
In 2014, the International Society for Sexual Medicine defined premature ejaculation as a male sexual dysfunction characterized by:
- For primary premature ejaculation, ejaculation always (or almost always) occurs before or within 1 minute of vaginal penetration. For secondary premature ejaculation, it occurs within 3 minutes.
- The inability to delay ejaculation during intercourse.
- Negative emotional effects, such as distress, frustration, or avoidance of intimacy, for both the patient and their partner.
It’s important to note that this definition of premature ejaculation applies only to vaginal intercourse.
From this definition, it’s clear that while time is important, it’s not the only criterion for diagnosing premature ejaculation.
So, don’t obsess over the duration of intercourse.
Moreover, even if you lose control and ejaculate too quickly, it might just be a case of “pseudo-premature ejaculation”!
These 6 Situations Are Pseudo-Premature Ejaculation—Don’t Scare Yourself!
1. Occasional Loss of Control is Normal
Premature ejaculation isn’t something that happens once or twice. For occasional instances of ejaculating too quickly, there’s no need to overthink it. Give yourself time to adjust and don’t label yourself too quickly.
2. Don’t Judge Based on the First Time
Many men, especially young men, can have multiple sexual encounters in a single day. Repeated ejaculations make subsequent ones more difficult, and the duration of intercourse tends to increase.
If the first time ends too quickly, ruining the mood for both partners, it’s unfair to conclude that you have premature ejaculation.
3. Reunions After a Long Time—It’s Normal to Be Quick
While “absence makes the heart grow fonder,” the excitement and buildup after a long separation can also make a man finish quickly.
Similarly, those with low sexual frequency or those who have abstained for a long time may also ejaculate quickly upon resuming sexual activity.
However, with proper adjustment and regular sexual activity, this issue usually resolves itself. So, don’t label it as premature ejaculation.
4. Being Out of Shape—It’s Normal to Be Quick
Men who are overworked, physically weak, overindulgent in sex, stressed, or recovering from illness are more prone to premature ejaculation and other sexual dysfunctions.
Additionally, poor timing or an unsuitable environment for sex can lead to anxiety, fear, or overexcitement, causing premature ejaculation.
5. “Premature Ejaculation” in Newlyweds is Understandable
Some newlywed couples may experience an unsatisfactory first night due to a lack of sexual knowledge, experience, or poor coordination, which can leave the man feeling less confident.
Additionally, some newlyweds, caught up in the excitement of their new union, may struggle to control their emotions and become overly immersed in the pleasures of sex. While this is normal, it can lead to issues such as a lack of control over ejaculation.
In short, except for a very small number of cases involving organic diseases, the vast majority of these situations are due to insufficient sexual experience. As long as both partners actively explore and learn together, the issue of “pseudo-premature ejaculation” can eventually be resolved.
6. Mismatched Sexual Abilities Between Men and Women
The sexual abilities of men and women vary from couple to couple.
Some women may require a longer time to reach orgasm. In such cases, even if the man’s sexual ability is normal, he may struggle to last long enough to satisfy his partner, leading to the mistaken perception of premature ejaculation.
These men are essentially being unfairly judged. Their “premature ejaculation” is a result of mismatched sexual abilities, so there’s no need to worry or feel anxious about it. With time, mutual adaptation, and communication, most couples can achieve sexual harmony.
Conclusion
Don’t think you have premature ejaculation just because your ejaculation time is much faster than the male lead in adult movies. In fact, most men’s actual sexual intercourse lasts between 3 to 8 minutes. By adjusting your mindset, you can persist longer!
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