Sudden loss of erection during sexual intercourse, which is experienced by many men, has therefore received special attention. After all, suddenly becoming soft while doing the thing is even harder to accept than being unable to become hard at the beginning. Because if you can’t get hard from the beginning, then just don’t do it. But becoming soft halfway through is really disappointing. Your partner will also be greatly disappointed in you.
Today’s blog will discuss this issue, hoping to solve your troubles. We will discuss from two aspects separately.
1. When Masturbating Alone
If you find that your penis is not hard enough during masturbation, or becomes soft after only a few minutes of erection. It is likely because your physical condition is not good enough.
Perhaps you usually feel that your body is very good, but the fact that your penis cannot be hardened already indicates everything – the better your physical fitness, the more vigorous your sexual desire is. On the contrary, the poorer the physical fitness, the lower the sexual desire, and erections are also affected.
When the body is in a state of exhaustion, there is no extra energy to have sex. Even after a forced erection, there may still be issues with insufficient hardness or a lack of sustained erection. Just like when a person has a fever or a cold, they won’t have any desire for sex!
Solution:
Firstly, you must re-examine your lifestyle habits, change bad ones, and gradually develop habits that are beneficial to your physical health. For example, we have mentioned many times about going to bed and getting up early, exercising regularly, and so on. In addition, it is also possible to control sexual desire appropriately and give the penis a temporary break to recuperate and build up energy.
2. When Making Love with Your Partner
Some men may say that their hardness is not bad when masturbating, but when it comes to sex with their partner, they often become soft after not persisting for long …
Well, generally speaking, if the erection is normal during masturbation, it indicates that there is no problem with the body’s functions. But when having sex with a partner, you may experience anxiety due to previous failures, suddenly interrupting the natural expression of sexual response, so it is easy to become soft.
For example, although the hardness was very good during foreplay, it suddenly softened at the moment of entering …
Most of the time, it’s because bad memories from the past came to mind and you couldn’t help but worry about whether you would experience premature ejaculation again or suddenly become soft again this time …
This is equivalent to the brain suddenly changing its state, from enjoying happy sexual experiences to worrying and fearing failure, and the sexual response naturally cannot continue.
At this point, many readers may say: “I don’t want to think about it either, but I can’t control my anxiety. What should I do?”
This can also be solved. For example, you can decide from the beginning that this sex is just for “entertainment” and not for the final “penetration” and “ejaculation”, and use other methods such as mouth, hands, and toys to make your partner climax. Then, the psychological pressure may disappear instantly.
Similarly, in such situations, the attitude of women is also very important. They should not excessively demand the performance of men, but simply enjoy the process naturally, and the results will be better. In other words, women should not exert too much psychological pressure on men.
Just like parents, they often encourage their children to face exams – “Go ahead, just like usual. It doesn’t matter how good the grades are, just do your best!”. On the contrary, if parents say to their children like this – “You must make it to the top three this time, otherwise you won’t buy any toys.”. The result can be imagined.
Doing the same thing in different psychological states results in different outcomes. In a relaxed and stress free environment, it is easy to perform exceptionally well, at least without making unnecessary mistakes due to unnecessary pressure, which is good enough.
Making love should be done in an extremely relaxed state. If you are filled with worries and anxieties, how can you do it well? Facing it with a relaxed attitude is the key to obtaining high-quality sex!
Solution:
- Communicating with your partner, letting her know about your problems, and hoping to receive her understanding and help, is the first step in relieving psychological pressure.
- Do it without any purpose, just enjoy the intimate process and learn to relax and enjoy it.
- During sex, don’t think about anything unrelated (such as recent troubles or past failures), focus on the sensory experience.
- If unfortunately you still suddenly become soft, don’t worry too much. Communicate with your partner in advance and ask her to help stimulate you with her hands or mouth. At the same time, you should continue to relax and enjoy the feeling she gives you, so that the sexual response can continue and it is possible to become hard again!
So under What Circumstances Do I Need to See a Doctor?
- Do you frequently experience sudden softening or difficulty ejaculating during sexual intercourse in the past six months to a year?
- Do you often fail to have morning erections for more than a week while ensuring 7-8 hours of regular sleep and balanced nutrition every day?
If the answers to both of the above questions are yes, then you do need to go to the hospital for examination. You need a doctor to diagnose the cause and provide treatment recommendations.
Otherwise, you only need to improve this state through some natural methods – For instance, the methods provided in this blog.
Conclusion
Sexual ability is a personal ability that requires diligent practice to comprehend and master. It is not innate, nor can it be easily mastered. So, even if there are some difficulties in the process, they can be solved through various methods. Don’t worry too much, just remember one thing – just relax.
